This Word Makes My Heart Smile

This Word Makes My Heart Smile

Let’s talk wellness!

I hear this word and I just feel alive. It brings in a mental image of everything that’s good in life, a lovely meal, a smile from the heart, the feeling of warm sunlight against my skin.

It just feels right…

I want you to please focus on the word FEEL. Because wellness is not a product, it’s a state of being.

The problem with the health and wellness industry now is that everything is either ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ – eating, living, exercising, even our body shape is either ‘right’ or ‘wrong’!

We have strayed from the true meaning of wellbeing and got sucked into the whirlpool of who is better than who.

You go to a bookstore and you find shelves and shelves of diet books, self-help books, and lifestyle books all discussing a certain way of living, each providing a different meaning to what health is all about. 

This concept deals with humans like they’re machines, one that is newly built, and therefore needs a different engineering system than the other machines which were built tens of years ago.

This is not true! The human species, like any other species, have a unique way of living that is their natural, God-given way. Please let me emphasize on the word natural. Because nothing is natural anymore! Starting from the way we eat to the way we think, to the way we live our day-to-day lives.

Let’s discuss this is in more detail…

  • Humans were made to be social creatures, we live in tribes, we share love, we dance, and we protect and support each other. We are far from being social today, our phones are our best friends and our laptop screen is our daily companion.
  • We were made to be hunters, to walk long distances, to run fast and to climb high. Humans nowadays spend an average of six hours a day of their time sitting down! do you know what that does to our bodies? it makes us more prone to have heart diseases, diabetes, and high blood pressure. It also affects our mood and decreases our energy levels drastically.
  • We were made to eat fresh produce, one that is gathered from the ground, that is watered by fresh clean water, and that is cared for by high-quality air and sunlight. We now eat engineered fruits and vegetables that might have never seen sunlight, packaged goods (which are not good at all) and frozen foods which are loaded with all kinds of things we better be avoiding, take trans-fat and preservatives, as a small example.
  • We were made to spend most of our time outdoors, under natural sunlight, absorbing all the Vitamin D we need, and to breathe clean fresh air, the kind of air that expands your lungs and makes you bounce with energy. Now, we spend 80 to 90% of our time indoors, away from any sort of direct sunlight. The air we breathe is manufactured A/C air that doesn’t quite cover our daily need for oxygen.
  • We were made to have a fight or flight system. This system pumps adrenaline and cortisol whenever we are under threat, that might be a lion or a natural disaster. And when the threat disappears, the stress disappears with it. Now, we are living in a continuous state of fight or flight, we are under constant stress and we barely have time to wind down and relax. (phone, work, emails, social media, and the list goes on and on)

So, looking at all of that, no wonder we need hundreds if not millions of wellness and self-help guides! and it’s no shocker people are confused! that’s a lot to take in. The change from our natural way of living is growing bigger by the year. 

Well-being is eating the right food, keeping our beautiful bodies active, staying connected to our core and spending time in nature. It’s shedding the layers of pretentious living we have put on with time and going back to what truly matters, our priorities, our life values and our love – the love we have for ourselves, for the people around us and for that we come in contact with. It’s believing in our intuition and trusting our feelings.

Because as I said before, wellness is not a product, it’s a state of being.

Peace & Love

Sara 

 

For Those Who Are Wondering If They Will Ever Find Their Life Purpose

 

I used to say I don’t know what I want to do, don’t know what my passion is or even if I have one!

Well, let me tell you we all have one. We are all born with a calling, something that is uniquely us, that speaks to our soul and that tickles our inner genius.

Mine is self-empowerment through mind and body health, helping people build a happier, healthier life.

You can also find yours. Just stop, breathe, and listen. Listen to your heart, what makes it skip a beat, what makes your eyes widen, and what makes your attention antenna switch on.

And then follow that voice, follow your bliss. Take it one step at a time, be open and be ready to change your life, because when you find your passion, believe me, your life will change.

 “The two most important days in your life is the day you were born and the day you find out why.”

-Mark Twain

Peace & Love,

Sara

The Five Love Languages – By Gary Shapman

The Five Love Languages – By Gary Shapman

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Love! One of my favorite words in the dictionary. Why? because it is the base of all human interactions and all human relationships. What is life without love? what is a relationship without love? what is a deed without love? what is purpose or passion without love? what is anything actually without love?

Gary Chapman, the author who lives in South Carolina has always been interested in the history of humans, hence he was an anthropology graduate and a doctor in philosophy.

In this book, Chapman summarizes the 5 languages of love, what makes our spouse feel loved and how all of that can alter the path of any marriage or relationship. It is an eye-opener to things we usually do, nonchalantly,  without grasping the magnitude it has on building a healthy, loving relationship.  Such as cooking dinner, asking about our partner’s day or even doing laundry.

In the vast world of relationships, The 5 Love Languages is a strong contender that should not be taken lightly. It’s the manual that lays out the steps to operate any machine safely, maintaining its performance for the longest time possible.

Reading through this book made me look at my own relationship differently, made me feel the utmost gratitude to be able to both understand and speak my husband’s love language. It also shed a light on a different angle that is wider than any specific relationship, and more related to human interactions as a whole. We all speak different love languages. Acknowledging this key piece of information will help anyone build, rebuild and sustain a healthy, loving relationship which brings joy to all the people involved.

A simple yet direct book that does not need lots of time to read, or lots of analysis to be done. The ideas included in the book are the, in your face, kind of ideas. However, they might require some contemplating and implementation effort from your side in order to examine their power to change the course of any relationship.

Peace & Love,

Sara

 

The Ego Died and We Lived Happily Ever After

The Ego Died and We Lived Happily Ever After

Ego:

“It’s a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.”

But what is a sense of something? How do we measure it? And most importantly, how do we know it’s real?

Can’t our sense of something be simply a fabrication of our own mind?

Let’s imagine something together- someone yells at me and it hurts my ego. Why was my ego hurt? And what happened in the process of yelling that made me feel hurt?

I’ll tell you what happened, the situation triggered a thought or a belief I had about myself: “I am someone who no one can yell at”. So, when the yelling took place, an instant thought came up telling me that I am being attacked, my defenses go up, I lash back, I take it personally, I hate the person, and it all goes downhill from there.

I might even obsess about it and start questioning the strength of my personality and how I come across to people to allow such a situation to happen. And the journey of self-blame begins. Again, it all goes downhill from there.

What we are forgetting is that our ego is just a thought! It is a false measure of standards we create for ourselves, we name it “I” and then spend the rest of our lives defending it and living by it.

We also forget that even the other person has a false ego that was “rubbed the wrong way” in order for them to behave the way they do.

We forget that it is not personal and that it never was. We forget that behind all of this drama is just peace and quiet.

The peace that comes from the understanding that we are not our ego, we are not who we think we are, and we are not the “Is” we attach to ourselves.

We are human beings.

Being is such an important word here; because this is what we were created to do, to just be.

Being is living and not just being alive. Being is the complete awareness that we are all one, that the universe is all one. Being is knowing that no one can make me feel anything unless I choose to feel it.

Being is complete faith in ourselves now, in the perfect form we are in this present moment. Being is the ability to see the beauty even in the ugliest situations. Being is the ability to rise above all that is beneath us.

Being is who you truly are and that is what matters.

“When the ego dies, the soul awakes.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

Peace & Love,

Sara

What Happens When Your Mind Has Nothing To Say?

What Happens When Your Mind Has Nothing To Say?

Stop living in your head! 

I start this piece with such a bold statement; because I want it to be a strong reminder for you to snap out of your head for a moment.

If there is anything, and I mean anything that steals away the feeling of the present moment it’s our defeat against our own mind.

A mind is a relentless machine, one that we don’t have any control over, the speed at which it goes will stay and continue for the rest of our lives. Does that mean we are helpless? Of course not!

Because thoughts are not what shape our reality, it’s the belief, the attention and the power we give to that thought that makes it reserve a seat in our theatre of life.

Thoughts will come and go every day, what we can do is acknowledge these thoughts and the feelings they create, and then allow it to be, allow it to pass through us and dissolve into the nothingness it already is which is a thought!

The reason I am emphasizing the thought is that as Eckhart Tolle says: “we are all one thought away from misery and one thought away for enlightenment” 

A simple thought can actually shift our entire being, and this is why consciousness or awareness (AKA Mindfulness)  is vital in taming our thoughts and using them to our benefit and not the other way around.

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is giving yourself the space to be, to grow, to love and to give. It’s stepping away from your thoughts into your inner silence, it’s allowing your inner power to glow, it’s leveraging your mind to your own benefit and taking it one step at a time from there. Mindfulness is when you actually free yourself and pave the way to creativeness, newness, and clarity.

Accept your thoughts, be aware of them, and simply send those which do not serve you into silence, chain their power and allow them to dissolve; because only then will you experience the true power of Mindfulness.

“When there is a quiet mind there is nothing to fear, for all fears exist only within the thoughts of the mind”

-anonymous

Peace & Love,

Sara Abiqwa

 

Listen To This: If You Don’t Want To, You Don’t Have To!

Listen To This: If You Don’t Want To, You Don’t Have To!

I am a woman, a wife, a daughter, a writer, a blogger, an aspiring thought coach, and a human resource activist. 

That’s a lot of labels, right? 

Why not just drop the whole thing and call it I’m a human being and a soul, nothing more, nothing less. 

What this does is remove the burden of being anything in specific and simply be anything you want and desire to be.

But read closely, this doesn’t mean I don’t like what I said I am at the beginning of this article, it means I don’t feel obligated to be any of these things, instead I feel blessed to have the freedom to choose each and every one of them, every single day.

You don’t have to be anything you don’t want to be just to have a label that provides a certain level of false security. What you choose to be is something bigger than you, something that paves the way for you to expand your potential and live to your highest possible self. 

When you drop the perspective of obligation and stop using the language of should and have to, and replace it with I feel like or I want to, it starts to feel more like a choice, you start feeling more freedom and that is when you actually realize that life is not happening to you it’s actually just happening, and that you are the one who chooses how and when to be part of it. 

So remember if you don’t want to, you don’t have to. 

“Never say yes to anything you can’t say no to.”
― Marty Rubin

Peace & Love,

Sara Abiqwa

Why Am I Discussing The Rain In The Middle Of August?

Why Am I Discussing The Rain In The Middle Of August?

It’s a rainy day…

What was the first thing that came to your mind when you heard this sentence?

Some might say a hot cup of coffee, others would say a couple dancing in the rain, or PJs and laying around the house doing absolutely nothing, going for a jog or maybe the bright green color of trees.

It’s one thought with a million interpretations, a million different reflections and reactions, a zillion mixed feelings of excitement, joy, romance or boredom.

But wait a minute! Why am I telling you all of this?

Because that is exactly what life is all about, every moment we are in is the manifest of our interpretation of a single thought. I always talk about the missing link, and this is exactly what I am referring to here, it’s the missing link in the process of forming our reality.

Thought – Feeling – ??? – Action – Result – Reality

So what is missing here? It’s what I call the feeling identification, which is how we chose to interpret a thought and whether we chose to believe it, act on it and have it as a reality or simply treat it the way it is, which is only a thought.

We are not experiencing life as it is, we are experiencing our ideas and beliefs about life, about our partner, our family, the country we live in or the weather!  We all went through past life experiences that hinder our awareness of being in the present moment.

This is freaking awesome! Let me tell you why?

  1. Because it means we have control over our thoughts, and it is up to us to let them overcome us, or make room for them to emerge and flow through us while keeping full awareness of the process.
  2. Life has unlimited possibilities of realities that we can choose from, realities that we can build by being aware and remembering the daunting fact that deep at our source we are empty, we are only space and that is all there is. So, chose to fill this space wisely!

Now, to sum up, I’m going to ask you to always be on alert for the missing link, whenever you get a thought, pause! And let your feelings be your compass. If the feeling you get is a positive one, chose to identify with it and turn it into a reality. If not, don’t put more thoughts on top of it or try to analyze it, just let it be, let it fade as fast as it was born and move on with your day.

“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

Peace & Love,

Sara Abiqwa