What I Told Myself The Other Day On The Beach

What I Told Myself The Other Day On The Beach

When in doubt always go to the beach!

That’s what I told myself the moment I stepped on the cold sand. My feet burried under the soft texture of the beach, my eyes gazing into the distance. Where am I and who am I? I asked myself.

Silence was all I could hear.

Is it silence or is it my soul just being there in the moment telling me to stop trying to make sense out of this life and just live it.

You are you, that is what the silence was telling me. And you are more than enough.

Don’t seek the mirage of the bright future and stop gazing back at all that has already been. Right now, right here on this beach is all that matters. I lift my head up, I look around me and all I see is beauty! Where has this been hiding? or was it never hiding but just waiting for the right moment to be seen.

Who am I? I ask.

“I am me, I am the sea, I am this beach and I am life itself.”

There is no you too seek, there is only you to be… so let’s start being.

Peace & Love,

Sara

How Does Spirituality Make You Happier?

How Does Spirituality Make You Happier?

What is spirituality? and why is everyone so obsessed with it lately?

When I researched the word spiritual, I found a lot of different definitions. However, what was in common between all of them was the feeling of belonging, connection, and going beyond the physical.

Some people mistake spirituality for people who choose to abandon religion and adopt a new sense of belief.

Spirituality is a much broader topic than we can discuss here. Spirituality is a feeling, it’s faith, it’s the belief and trust in something bigger than who we are.

Spirituality is selflessness

I have always struggled with adopting a spiritual practice that worked for me, or to understand what its is to be spiritual in the first place. i looked arounf and saw people with string faith and belief systems and thought to myelf: “wow! I wonder where they bring this certainty from”.

And that is what spirituality gives us, a sense of certainty.

This takes me to the why behind choosing to write about spirituality today, and that is: discussing the relationship between spirituality and our wellbeing and happiness. Are they even related? and if they are, are they correlated?

My strong personal opinion is “YES” they are!

Look at all humans around the globe, from the primitive human to the one living in cities, to the forest tribes that have never seen civilization. They all came to build a spiritual belief system, a faith, a higher power to pray to and ask for help in times of need and difficulty.

If that tells you anything, then it tells you that it is in our human nature to believe, to be spiritual and to have faith that we are being taken care of by something bigger than who we are.

This gives us a sense of relief and safety; that feeling that everything is and will be okay, which is great! It also gives us a sense of belonging, we belong to a certain faith, or we belong to universal power but we belong and this also feels great.

Spirituality helps us relax and let loose, it helps us not take ourselves too seriously, it helps us shed the layers of ego because at the bottom of who we are, we know we are spiritual beings in a physical body.

This all feeds the most basic human needs of love, social belonging, safety, self-actualization and transendence.

For this to come to me it took practice, it took openness to believe and it took courage to let go of the need to control every little simple thing.

Now, I have my own spiritual practice, one that serves me, that feeds my soul and that helps me be more myself every single day.

Here is what I do:

  • Meditation: giving myself the time to be silent and still awakens something new in me every day. (I give myself 5-10 minutes daily after I wake up to just be and focus on my breath)
  • Prayer: that feeling of complete serenity, of surrender and love. Being in that space of no judgment shows me the real meaning of self-love. (I pray before I sleep and when I wake up, and I sit there soaking in all the connection)
  • Spending time outdoors: the closeness to nature in all its beauty just brings joy to my heart, helps me stay creative and connect to the wonders of this universe. (this can be standing under the sun for 5 minutes, to taking a walk on the beach, I mix and match)
  • Presence: to actually be there in my own life, in each conversation, for every meal. It just adds more flavor to each moment and gives life more life. (I make sure I hear my husband in each conversation, I feel the sun on my skin, or I taste the coldness of my morning smoothie)
  • Gratitude: to stay aware of all that is going good in my life, from the smallest simple thing to the biggest achievement helps me stay grounded and makes me look at my life with a fresh eye every single day. (I spend every morning after meditation and before prayer to count three things I am grateful for, I even sometimes count my blessing during with my eyes close, I visualize them and I feel them in my body)

At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it.

Thich Nhat Hnah

Peace & Love,

Sara

5 Simple Steps To Learn How To Speak Up

5 Simple Steps To Learn How To Speak Up

If you don’t speak up, no one will know what you want. It’s that simple!

You see that all the time in relationships, friendships, at work, and even with your own self. You don’t say what you really want and therefore you end up not getting it. 

What happens then is your wounded-self starts to fabricate stories. I am never heard, no one loves me, I am not good enough or strong enough, why does this keep happening to me, what’s wrong with me, and the list continues. 

We shift to self-blame and self-doubt and start living our victim story. 

This is dangerous for so many reasons; first of all, it’s all imaginary, which means it is not based on any facts and therefore it’s a dark hole that you can keep falling into forever because no fact will help you snap out of it. Second of all, this can become a habit, and your ego can actually start enjoying this victim role and adopt it in every life situation. 

But don’t worry, because there is a way out. Here’s my 5 simple steps to learn how to speak up:

  1. Know your values

What is important to you? What are the things that really move you? Or inspire you? Or simply make you happier and more relaxed? is it honesty, love, simplicity, freedom, joy, or health? By knowing what your priorities are, you will be able to know what you want in the first place. And that is definitely a good point to start.

2. Get the answer to why you don’t speak up

There is always a reason to why we do something, and that is either to feel something, or to avoid feeling it. So, what is it for you? If it the fear of judgment, or the need to fit in? by discovering why you do something it will be easier for you to work on it and change it. 

3. Practice with yourself

Start telling yourself what you want, how you like your day to be, what schedule do you want to be on, or what daily routine do you want to have. The way we deal with ourselves is usually the way we deal with others. Do you have boundaries with yourself? Do you respect your own values? Do you tell yourself what you want? Or do you just do whatever, whenever?

4. Start Saying ‘no’

A huge part of speaking up and saying what we want, is saying what we don’t want. And this takes me to my first point of knowing your values. Start saying no to anything that doesn’t match or respect your values. If you love health, then it’s okay to say no when someone offers you a brownie. Setting boundaries will give you more space in your life to do what you actually want to do. 

5. Understand the game of speaking up

Humans are creatures of communication, and that is the only way we know how to understand each other. If you don’t speak up and share your wants and needs, how do you expect others to know them? It’s impossible! By speaking up you will help yourself have healthier, stronger relationships. The kind of relationships that not only respect your values but also allow you to feel comfortable defending them.

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.” 

-Madonna

Peace & Love,

Sara

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Attention: I had a bad day!

Attention: I had a bad day!

That agitating feeling, the need to get out of your own skin. What is that? and what is happening to me?

I thought there was something wrong, I thought I was having an allergic reaction to my own thoughts. but what I discovered was, I was only trying to escape the moment, to change its features, to make it more into what I expected it to be rather than what it really is. But again, what is that? and why is it happening to me?

No judgement, just love. that was what I felt inside, what I was expressing to the outside world of my own thoughts.

“So you are worried”, I thought to myself. That is okay! Come dear worry and let me sit with you, let me get aquainted and get to know you. What is it that you want and what is it you are trying to tell me?

You know that even our deepest, darkest emotions carry the wisest of messages, the most painful reminders to open our eyes and see reality as is. To face our demons and for once not be scared of them, but familiarize ourselves with them and embrace them in the home of our mind.

I have demons but those are not me. that is the wake up call I got. 

Being human is not a physical experience, being human is a spiritual journey of love, hate, sadness and happiness. Of being water and moving with the flow of life, of going through the bottlenecks and still have the lucidity to know that our way out is by flowing through the bottleneck instead of fighting our way out.

Oh, dear self, dear selves of the world, it’s okay to not be okay that is only a stop in the railway of life.

‘When it hurts observe, life is trying to tell you something’.

-Buddha

Peace & Love,

Sara

How To Overcome The Paralyzing Fear of Change?

How To Overcome The Paralyzing Fear of Change?

The idea of change is scary. Just the idea of it, Imagine the actual thing! Right? 

That’s why most ideas never become reality, it’s just because we are so scared to act on them.

I use the word paralyzing here because that is exactly how it feels sometimes. Like we just can’t move. 

But, why is that? 

I did my own research from my personal experience when I was faced with the decision to move from Amman to Kuwait. What I discovered was that I was more scared of the mental picture I built in my brain for the change than the change itself. 

I was a creative author of a long scary story of negative thoughts, of loneliness and of self-doubt.

I was telling myself that I am not up for this change, I don’t have what it takes to survive or to make it happen. I used to literally tell myself that I wouldn’t be able to breath living away from home. And I actually used the analogy of being a fish taken out of the fish tank. 

And that is exactly what I experienced when I moved, I experienced loneliness, self-doubt, and suffocation, I felt like I can’t take a deep breath. But what was the real reason behind all of that? was it the move? or was it all in my head?

Let me tell you, the change was difficult, but my lovely little mind games were the true reason for my suffering. And that is how life is, change is not what’s scary, it’s our inner narrative that makes it terrifying.

To think about it, which fish is not literally waiting for the day someone frees her from the fish tank!

Now, five years later, I am free fish in the open water, my move is something I mention in my gratitude journal, something that I am actually thankful for. This move changed me drastically, it helped me re-discover myself and made me more independent, reasonable and more in touch with my inner being than I ever was living back home. 

The move re-directed my entire life, made me closer to my husband and helped me discover my passion for wellness, self-development, and health. 

The reason I am sharing this story today is to tell you to dial down the inner narrative you’re telling yourself about the change and the challenge you’re about to embark. 

Was my transition into my move easy? Hell no! But I survived and I came out a more aware person. 

You will too…

So, embrace that change, leave that job you are waiting to leave, tell that person you love them, tell your parents you want to move out, or let go of that toxic relationship. Whatever it is, accept it as part of your growth and life journey.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
-Lao Tzu

Peace & Love,

Sara

Attention: Reading This Is Like Seeing Into My Soul

Attention: Reading This Is Like Seeing Into My Soul

The vessel from which everything emerges…

The empty space that leads to creation, the nothingness that leads to things and the meaningless existence that gives life to meaning.

Oh, what is this vessel? how magical is this creation?! this space from which all life comes to life.

But, what is it that the eye cannot see? please let me tell you that it’s only space… a quiet dark space of eternal peace, of fulfillment, of orgasmic power that bleeds into existence.

The power of the vessel is ‘choice’, the ability to make informed decisions.

But again, what is information, it’s a figment of the imagination, it’s fairy dust in thin air. Information is lethal and yet it’s the ultimate savior.

The vessel is where all information reside, it’s where the limited becomes unlimited and where life has no shape.

The vessel is a blessing and a curse. The vessel is us, it’s me and it’s you. The vessel is no one but everyone.

The vessel is where you are beyond the limitation of time and space. It’s those moments where you transcend yourself, you transcend life and you transcend thinking.

It’s when you’re free from thinking… when for a split of a second you experience liberation, the liberation of the soul from the mind.

The vessel is why we’re here, and why we’re fearless. But hey, don’t even think of looking for it because it’s nowhere. It’s already there. YOU ARE IT, you are the vessel and through the vessel you shall live.

This was created in a moment of pure clarity.

Peace & Love,

Sara

We Were Wrong All this Time

We Were Wrong All this Time

The pursuit of happiness should be the pursuit of the self.

What I’ve noticed lately from everyone I work with, or from anyone who approaches me for advice is that people are disconnected from their true self.

I’ve noticed that because I was that! (still in the process if knowing myself fully)

I was a stranger to my own self! And, sadly, that is how people are operating in the world we live in right now. People are losing touch with the soul of who they are, what they stand for, what they like, what they don’t like, how they behave and the way they think.

We no longer know what is important, because our priorities are all messed up.

What we think is important is nothing but an illusion… the new bag, the fancy car, the big house. This will never bring us fulfillment. (although they are all nice to have, don’t get me wrong!).

But, what I’m trying to say here is that the ego is taking over, we are surrendering to the dogmas of faith and society, disregarding our deepest and purest virtues.

We are prioritizing material over experience, we are collectors and consumers, we are trying to fill a void that can never be filled with things. Remember, we are spiritual beings in a material world, and as spirits we need freedom, we need self-expression and we need love. 

This is what will alter the fate of humanity, what will elevate human relationships and what will provide infinite fulfillment.

We are boundless and yet we treat ourselves as bounded beings, we always say how are ‘have to’ and how ‘we don’t have the choice’. But guess what? we do!

We always have the choice to get to know ourselves better and to take time of every day to know what is important, we have the choice to react in a certain way, to think in a certain and to behave in a certain way. We also have the choice to be free, to choose freely and to express ourselves fully.

Self-expression is the celebration of self-knowledge, it’s putting the common sense to practice, it’s respecting your own set of beliefs and it’s the courage of showing the world who you truly are.

By knowing ourselves, we will be liberated, we will thrive and grow like never before and we will see the horizon of infinite possibilities.

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”
-Lao Tzu

Peace & Love,

Sara