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How To Overcome The Paralyzing Fear of Change?

How To Overcome The Paralyzing Fear of Change?

The idea of change is scary. Just the idea of it, Imagine the actual thing! Right? 

That’s why most ideas never become reality, it’s just because we are so scared to act on them.

I use the word paralyzing here because that is exactly how it feels sometimes. Like we just can’t move. 

But, why is that? 

I did my own research from my personal experience when I was faced with the decision to move from Amman to Kuwait. What I discovered was that I was more scared of the mental picture I built in my brain for the change than the change itself. 

I was a creative author of a long scary story of negative thoughts, of loneliness and of self-doubt.

I was telling myself that I am not up for this change, I don’t have what it takes to survive or to make it happen. I used to literally tell myself that I wouldn’t be able to breath living away from home. And I actually used the analogy of being a fish taken out of the fish tank. 

And that is exactly what I experienced when I moved, I experienced loneliness, self-doubt, and suffocation, I felt like I can’t take a deep breath. But what was the real reason behind all of that? was it the move? or was it all in my head?

Let me tell you, the change was difficult, but my lovely little mind games were the true reason for my suffering. And that is how life is, change is not what’s scary, it’s our inner narrative that makes it terrifying.

To think about it, which fish is not literally waiting for the day someone frees her from the fish tank!

Now, five years later, I am free fish in the open water, my move is something I mention in my gratitude journal, something that I am actually thankful for. This move changed me drastically, it helped me re-discover myself and made me more independent, reasonable and more in touch with my inner being than I ever was living back home. 

The move re-directed my entire life, made me closer to my husband and helped me discover my passion for wellness, self-development, and health. 

The reason I am sharing this story today is to tell you to dial down the inner narrative you’re telling yourself about the change and the challenge you’re about to embark. 

Was my transition into my move easy? Hell no! But I survived and I came out a more aware person. 

You will too…

So, embrace that change, leave that job you are waiting to leave, tell that person you love them, tell your parents you want to move out, or let go of that toxic relationship. Whatever it is, accept it as part of your growth and life journey.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
-Lao Tzu

Peace & Love,

Sara

How The Word Normal Is Destroying Our Life

How The Word Normal Is Destroying Our Life

I was sitting the other day with a group of people and marriage was the topic of discussion. Everyone was arguing how most married couples are not happy, bored or just living life together because it feels comfortable, not forgetting that is also becomes familiar territory.

I kept listening to the conversation thinking to myself: ‘why would anyone stay with anyone if they’re not happy!’ and then, of course, being little ms. expressive, I had to ask the question out loud, and the answer I got did not, in any way, make me even slightly understand why would people do that!

The answer was: ‘it’s normal’

It’s normal for people to grow bored in a relationship, to simply just stay for the sake of surviving, for the fear of letting go, or the fear of simply starting something new.

This does not only apply to this subject alone, this applies to every other thing in our life- The job we hate but stay in… Come one! it’s normal, I mean who likes their job anyway! or changing yourself for the sake of fitting in, because again, it’s normal, that’s what society implies on us and besides, everyone else is doing it too!

But, what is normal? and who set the standard for that? and if that’s what normal is, then do you really want to be normal?

Another question I have for you today is: ‘if everyone is wrong, does that make it right?’

I mean this is not a grey area here, and I’m not discussing something controversial. I am inviting you back to your basic most precious gift as a human and that is THINKING!

Think of what you say before you say it, think of your life and how it is the way it is, think of your actions and whether you believe in them or not. Think of who you are? and the reasons for which you are that person today?

Do you live the way you do because it’s normal? or do you actually want to live that way?

Normal is just a word that we invented to label things that the mass do. but are we cattle? or are we unique genius individuals which were given the gift of choice.

We can choose to be in that relationship or to simply leave. To let our soul die in that corporate desk job or to follow our dreams. To be who we are without any ounce of attention to what other people think.

That is our choice and we have the full responsibility to make the right one for us.

So, ask yourself today, do I want to be normal? or do I want to be me?

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”
-Maya Angelou

Peace & Love,

Sara

8 Beautiful Ways To Practice Self-Love

8 Beautiful Ways To Practice Self-Love

Today is about self-love

Self- love is what pulls you up in the days when your body feels like cracking down and your mind just wants to give up. Self-love is food to the soul, it just brings us back to the basics of what truly matters.

Oprah Winfrey said:

Always keep your cup full until your cup runneth over.

By giving ourselves what we need, we will be able to then share with the world around us. Self-love is an act of giving that will change your life.

If you don’t know where to start here is a couple of techniques that can help put you on the right path.

1) Have a love ritual

Give yourself 15 to 20 Minutes a day of sitting with yourself doing something you love. Cook a hearty meal, slip into a bubble bath or play your favorite song. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s something that puts you in a state of joy and ease.

2) Know your values

Who are you? and what are your life principles? Is it simplicity, love, joy, health, success or honesty? Clearly identify each and every principle you hold dearly to your heart.

And now, the most important question comes to play- Do you actually live by those values? if the answer is no, then it’s time to start moving closer to your truth.

3) Express yourself fully

We are born a white canvas, with a world of freedom to draw whatever we like on that canvas. To express our true colors, and draw fearlessly without holding back. The way we talk, the way we walk, the music we listen to, what we eat and the way we dress are only some examples of how we can express ourselves in the material world.

By expressing ourselves we are only confirming the feeling of self-love, of self-pride and self-growth.

4) Explore your spirituality

Remember, we are spiritual beings living in a physical world. Add practices to your routine that help you connect to your heart such as meditation, love affirmations, prayer, and faith will help us reconnect with the soul of our being. To the core of who we are, a particle of this beautiful universe, a miracle among many others.

5) Set boundaries

It’s okay to say no, it’s okay to protect your peace of mind, it’s okay to care for your health and it’s okay to grow and change in the direction that brings you happiness. Not everyone understands your priorities or believes in your values, that is your job!

Your job is to respect your needs and answer to your priorities, your job is to love yourself enough to say no.

6) Grow gratitude

Say thank you. Thank you for being you, thank you for the effort you are putting, and thank you for the love you have right there within you. Thank you for the universe, for your health, and for your journey.

Being grateful is just a reminder of what is going right in our life, it’s a conscious choice to give attention to what is beautiful and what is thriving.

7) Stop Comparing

That is by far the worst thing you can do to yourself. You are unique, and so is your life journey. Shift the focus to what is happening with you right now, to what your goals are in the future and to the beauty of the present moment.

You are you and by trying to have someone else’s life, you are only fighting the natural flow of the universe trying to express itself through you.

8) Be mindful

Now is all you have! being mindful makes that salad you’re having so much more yummy makes that hug so much warmer and makes the sun kissing your skin so much more soothing.

By being mindful we are experiencing life to it’s fullest. Nothing will be ordinary ever again!

These tools are not a one time trick, they are a continuous practice that will with time turn into a habit, which will turn into your life. And then, my friend, you will experience what I call the self-love high.

Peace & Love,

Sara

The First Time I Had a Panic Attack

The First Time I Had a Panic Attack

It was a normal day… or so I thought!

I’m in bed trying to sleep, my mind is going one hundred and twenty miles an hour, my body starts to heat up, my heart is beating super fast and I feel a weird sensation in my throat like I want to cry but I can’t. I start panicking, thinking I need to run away from my own body! What is happening to me? I ask myself…

And then, a voice within me tells me to breathe, breathe deeply and steadily. And that is exactly what I did, I started breathing at my own pace, controlling each inhale and exhale.

the voice starts to become clearer… You are not your thoughts, it says! You are not your thoughts!

I start to calm down, still focusing on my breathing, my body settling back into its normal state… and I fall asleep.

What happened there? and why?

What happened is that my body was trying to cope with the thousand thoughts inside my head that it overheated, and wanted to shut down.

I was so fixated on my thoughts, focusing strongly and deeply on them that my body started living the sensation of these thoughts. And that is how we live each and every day of our lives.

In a constant state of reaction.

Try something with me, next time you listen to your favorite song, stay aware of your emotion and how your body will automatically want to start dancing. Or the next time you think of a sad situation you went through, focus on how your stomach will clench and your heart will feel heavy.

That is called an emotion: 

“the physical reaction of a thought”

But a thought is nothing but a normal brain function. We have sixty to seventy thousand thoughts a day, ranging from memories to pictures, to ideas, to songs, etc. It’s just what the mind does.

What you should know is that it means nothing! Yes, you read correctly. It means nothing! unless you choose to give it your attention and then it becomes your life.

What saved me from my panic attack the other night is my utmost belief that I am not my thoughts, that behind all this thinking I am okay, we are all okay and that is who we are- infinite space of peace and love.

I’m sharing this with you today to tell you that it’s okay, life can get overwhelming sometimes but always remember that it will be okay. 

And, if you have a panic attack please focus on keeping your breathing steady and deep, and keep repeating to yourself that you are not your thoughts. 

“We don’t strive for perfection we live for peace”

Peace & Love,

Sara

Attention: Reading This Is Like Seeing Into My Soul

Attention: Reading This Is Like Seeing Into My Soul

The vessel from which everything emerges…

The empty space that leads to creation, the nothingness that leads to things and the meaningless existence that gives life to meaning.

Oh, what is this vessel? how magical is this creation?! this space from which all life comes to life.

But, what is it that the eye cannot see? please let me tell you that it’s only space… a quiet dark space of eternal peace, of fulfillment, of orgasmic power that bleeds into existence.

The power of the vessel is ‘choice’, the ability to make informed decisions.

But again, what is information, it’s a figment of the imagination, it’s fairy dust in thin air. Information is lethal and yet it’s the ultimate savior.

The vessel is where all information reside, it’s where the limited becomes unlimited and where life has no shape.

The vessel is a blessing and a curse. The vessel is us, it’s me and it’s you. The vessel is no one but everyone.

The vessel is where you are beyond the limitation of time and space. It’s those moments where you transcend yourself, you transcend life and you transcend thinking.

It’s when you’re free from thinking… when for a split of a second you experience liberation, the liberation of the soul from the mind.

The vessel is why we’re here, and why we’re fearless. But hey, don’t even think of looking for it because it’s nowhere. It’s already there. YOU ARE IT, you are the vessel and through the vessel you shall live.

This was created in a moment of pure clarity.

Peace & Love,

Sara

We Were Wrong All this Time

We Were Wrong All this Time

The pursuit of happiness should be the pursuit of the self.

What I’ve noticed lately from everyone I work with, or from anyone who approaches me for advice is that people are disconnected from their true self.

I’ve noticed that because I was that! (still in the process if knowing myself fully)

I was a stranger to my own self! And, sadly, that is how people are operating in the world we live in right now. People are losing touch with the soul of who they are, what they stand for, what they like, what they don’t like, how they behave and the way they think.

We no longer know what is important, because our priorities are all messed up.

What we think is important is nothing but an illusion… the new bag, the fancy car, the big house. This will never bring us fulfillment. (although they are all nice to have, don’t get me wrong!).

But, what I’m trying to say here is that the ego is taking over, we are surrendering to the dogmas of faith and society, disregarding our deepest and purest virtues.

We are prioritizing material over experience, we are collectors and consumers, we are trying to fill a void that can never be filled with things. Remember, we are spiritual beings in a material world, and as spirits we need freedom, we need self-expression and we need love. 

This is what will alter the fate of humanity, what will elevate human relationships and what will provide infinite fulfillment.

We are boundless and yet we treat ourselves as bounded beings, we always say how are ‘have to’ and how ‘we don’t have the choice’. But guess what? we do!

We always have the choice to get to know ourselves better and to take time of every day to know what is important, we have the choice to react in a certain way, to think in a certain and to behave in a certain way. We also have the choice to be free, to choose freely and to express ourselves fully.

Self-expression is the celebration of self-knowledge, it’s putting the common sense to practice, it’s respecting your own set of beliefs and it’s the courage of showing the world who you truly are.

By knowing ourselves, we will be liberated, we will thrive and grow like never before and we will see the horizon of infinite possibilities.

“He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”
-Lao Tzu

Peace & Love,

Sara

 

The 5 Ultimate Self-Destruction Habits Of Humankind

The 5 Ultimate Self-Destruction Habits Of Humankind

That moment when you wake up!

You thought it means to wake up from sleep, didn’t you? 

Well, it doesn’t!

I’m talking about a different level of waking up… the moment you open our eyes and see yourself, for the first time. 

We are usually the one person who is standing between us and our dreams, and here is how we do it… 

The 5 ultimate self- destruction habits of humankind:

1-  Oblivion, 

Not asking yourself the most important questions in life: 

Who am I? Why am I here? And what do I stand for? 

These three questions, if answered, will change your life. Have you ever started a relationship with someone before you actually got to know them, I hope not! 

The exact same thing happens here, you can’t start building a relationship with yourself if you don’t really know who you are, what your goals are in life and what are the main values you live by. 

2- Self- doubt

That is one creepy monster! You don’t feel it’s coming and then suddenly you see it in front of you and get too scared to even move. 

Self doubt is paralyzing, it will forever keep you in your place because you don’t believe in yourself enough to take any step. 

It’s that voice inside your head that tells you: you are not ready, you don’t have it in you, and maybe it’s not for you. 

So, keep an eye out for this monster and have enough faith in yourself that when you see it you have the courage to say no I do have it in me and I will do it.

3- Comfort Zone

This is more like the friend you don’t really want to have. The friend that tells you it’s okay to just go out and party every night when you’re twenty-nine, just because you used to do that when you were eighteen and life was going perfectly fine. 

But life changes, and you want to change with it. The higher the wave, the better your surfing skills ought to be. 

So step out of your comfort zone, do things that scare you sometimes, raise your own bar, learn and new skill, watch yourself grow and cheer on. 

4- Distraction

We live in a time where peace and quiet is a luxury. It’s like you’re trying to make a conversation with someone in the middle of a crowd. Will you be able to listen to them? Of course not!

That is where we are now, we are always trying to get our own attention, but we can’t even listen to ourselves anymore. There is just so much noise around us; the noise of a busy life, of a demanding job, of our thoughts about our busy life and our demanding job.

Our attention span is becoming shorter and shorter because we’re getting used to what’s quick and easy.

But the question is, how will we ever know who we are if we’re never really there with ourselves anymore.

5- Just Being Mean

That is when you choose to be mean to yourself, to be harsh on yourself and to beat yourself up. 

Why didn’t I do well in that meeting? I look too fat! I’m too thin! I wish had long hair! My hair looked better short! I’m never going to make it! Who do I think I am! 

I can literally go on forever…

How will your car be if you kept treating it like crap? It will break down! And probably way sooner than expected. 

We are exactly the same, we will break down at a certain point if we keep mistreating ourselves. 

Self love is compassion, it’s support, it’s looking at yourself and saying thank you! You did your best today and that was awesome.

It’s patting yourself on the back after a long day, it’s saying I love you for who you are and for what I want you to be. 

Self love is being full of yourself enough to be able to give, to share and to attract what you want in your life and not what you need. 

“No one is you, and that is your superpower

Peace & Love,

Sara