It happens that I am on a bus ride on the way to the airplane going back from Italy to Kuwait, my current country of residence. There are more than 50 people squeezed in next to each other waiting to go home.
I look around me and can’t help but compare! Compare the look and feel of foreign women living outside the borders of the Middle East with those living in it. Please be aware that by the look I am not referring to the way they dress, I am referring to the freedom of expression and emotional energy released by most of these women.
Because I see the role of all woman as fundamental in any relationship and more specifically in her happiness and well-being as an individual.
The women on the bus look emotionally distant, restricted and a bit lost.
They stand next to their husbands while keeping a safe distance. Moments of emotional intimacy is not even an option. I look around me with not a single smiling face, everyone is serious looking ahead into the distance of their thoughts.
And I can’t help but feel their energy, and it falls heavy on my chest.
Have you ever heard the term creative expression?
Creative expression is an important pillar in building one’s happiness, it’s having the full freedom to express who you truly are, how you feel, how you interact with those around you, the tone of voice you speak in, and the way you move your body.
Being restricted from such a privilege, the privilege to explore and be your true-self makes a person direct a movie of life that is right in the eyes of society, race, culture, or any other dogma, and then play the lead part in that movie.
The thing is, happiness is not something we seek by pleasing the world around us, happiness is what we find after we shed the layers of social and personal nonsense we live in.
Again, I’m not generalizing, and I am definitely not saying who is “right” or “wrong”.
I used to be one of those women, I used to believe that the only way to shape my own self is by trying to be acceptable in the eyes of those around me and if that did anything, it just moved me further from living my true self.
Now, after a long journey of self- discovery, of reprogramming my mind and thought process, of learning that happiness comes from the inside out rather than the outside in, I can for the first time in my life live and be my true self.
Social restrictions are not an excuse, Gandhi felt full freedom while being imprisoned, the power within is something no one can take away from you, love is from the heart, freedom is freedom of the soul and peace is peace of mind.
“You can chain me, you can torture me, you can even destroy this body, but you will never imprison my mind.”
– Mahatma Gandhi
Peace & Love,