“You are the average of the most five people you hang out with.”
Have you ever spent time with someone and went home feeling physically and mentally drained?
Have you ever grown out of a friendship? Or,
Felt guilty that you no longer connect with a high school or a childhood friend?
this is all because of something I call “the chemistry of the human soul”.
The above are all situations where your souls simply didn’t meet, your perception of yourselves are very much different at this point, that you find it difficult to practice the basic human ability of making a conversation.
On the other hand, there are people you hang out with and then seven hours later, you still don’t want to go home. People you hang out with and then go home pumped up and full of energy to do, to grow and to learn, or people you sit with and simply feel at home or at peace, and the flow is so insane you can just sit there in complete silence and it will still feel as good.
Let me share with you important qualities you ought to take into consideration when building your social system:
1) look for drive:
people who are energy generators, people who are ambitious, creative and successful, people who add to your intellect and knowledge and make you more curious about life.
2) look for positive vibe:
people who make you laugh your bum off, people who uplift your soul and make you leave a lighter person with a fresh view on life.
3) look for peace:
people who make you feel at home, people who you can call family, or a solid support system, people who make you feel like you are part of a tribe.
4) look for genuineness:
This is the base for every human relationship, look for people who have genuine love, genuine trust and genuine care for you in their hearts, and when you find these people hold on closely to them for they are gems that are rare in this world we live in. These are the people who will stick by your side through thick and thin.
And now, after taking all of this into account, be careful to give to people exactly what you want to receive from them if not more, because only by doing so will you be able to build the perfect social system that will make your life a richer and more fulfilling one.
“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.”
− Collin Powell
Peace & Love,